Eighth-Day Freedom

Q27 “…tell us about your process and experience of leaving Adventism.”

Here is a link to an AI generated podcast about the 757 responses to Question 27 “In as few or as many words as you like, please tell us about your process and experience of leaving Adventism.”

FAQ: Leaving Adventism [data from the over 800 responses to Question 27]
1. What are some common reasons people give for leaving Adventism?

Many individuals cite doctrinal disagreements as a primary reason for their departure. This can include questioning the validity of Ellen G. White’s writings, the church’s stance on the Sabbath, the investigative judgment doctrine, or its views on eschatology. Others find the church’s social conservatism, particularly regarding women’s ordination, LGBTQ+ issues, and interracial marriage, to be incompatible with their personal values. Additionally, some individuals express feelings of isolation, judgment, and a lack of support from the Adventist community, leading them to seek a more inclusive and accepting environment.

2. How do people describe their experience of leaving Adventism?

Leaving Adventism is often described as a deeply personal and complex process, evoking a wide range of emotions. For some, it’s a liberating experience marked by newfound freedom and relief from the perceived rigidity and legalism of the church. For others, it can be a painful and isolating journey, filled with guilt, shame, and the loss of community and support systems. Many former Adventists grapple with reconciling their past beliefs with their evolving worldview, navigating complex relationships with family and friends who remain within the church.

3. Do people face challenges or resistance when leaving Adventism?

The level of difficulty in leaving varies greatly depending on individual circumstances and support networks. Some individuals face minimal resistance, experiencing a relatively smooth transition out of the church. However, others encounter significant pushback from family, friends, and the Adventist community. This can include emotional manipulation, shunning, and in some cases, threats of disinheritance or loss of employment. The intensity of these challenges often reflects the degree of social integration within the Adventist community and the family’s level of adherence to traditional beliefs.

4. What are some common coping mechanisms people use when leaving Adventism?

Former Adventists often seek support through therapy, online communities, and forming connections with other individuals who have gone through similar experiences. Therapy can provide a safe space to process the emotional and psychological impact of leaving a high-demand religion, while online communities offer a sense of belonging and shared understanding. Connecting with other former Adventists can help normalize their experience and provide validation during a time of significant transition.

5. What do people do after leaving Adventism in terms of their spirituality or religious beliefs?

The paths people take after leaving Adventism are diverse and highly individualistic. Some embrace atheism or agnosticism, rejecting the notion of a higher power altogether. Others explore different Christian denominations, finding a faith community that aligns better with their evolved beliefs and values. Some former Adventists gravitate towards spirituality or alternative belief systems, seeking meaning and purpose outside the confines of organized religion. The common thread is a desire for authenticity and a belief system that resonates with their personal experiences and understanding of the world.

6. Do former Adventists maintain relationships with family and friends who are still members of the church?

Maintaining relationships with family and friends who remain within the church can be challenging, but many former Adventists find ways to navigate these dynamics. Open communication, setting boundaries, and finding common ground are key to preserving these relationships. While some experience acceptance and understanding, others face strained relationships and a sense of distance. The success of maintaining these connections often hinges on the willingness of both parties to respect differing beliefs and prioritize the importance of family ties.

7. How do people reflect on their time in Adventism after they’ve left?

Reflections on time spent in Adventism are often multifaceted and nuanced. While acknowledging the negative aspects, such as feelings of restriction, judgment, and social isolation, many former Adventists also recognize the positive influences the church had on their lives. These can include a strong moral foundation, a sense of community, and a focus on health and well-being. The ability to appreciate the positive aspects while critically examining the negative allows for a more balanced and realistic perspective on their Adventist upbringing.

8. What advice do former Adventists offer to those considering leaving or who are currently in the process of leaving?

Common advice from former Adventists emphasizes the importance of self-care, finding supportive communities, and prioritizing personal well-being throughout the process. They encourage individuals to be patient with themselves, acknowledging that deconstructing and reconstructing one’s belief system is a journey that takes time and introspection. They also recommend seeking professional guidance when needed, as processing the emotional and psychological impact of leaving a high-demand religion can be complex and challenging. Ultimately, they advise staying true to oneself and prioritizing authenticity over external pressures to conform.